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How you lead self impacts others

Oh the stories I'm hearing as I travel the country giving workshops. Oh the insights about management styles I'm getting as I travel the south island giving workshops. Here are a handful I've heard in casual conversation. I'm sure they're not just a South Island thing.

Now there's always multiple sides to a story, but if this is a representation of life for employees there's a lot of room for improvement. And I wonder what's going on for these leaders/employers that leads to these styles.

What's behind you or your team's triggers at work?

"That’s it, I’m over my boss not supporting me, I want a New Job". How was this recent client's boss not supporting her? He reminded her of her high-school teacher who embarrassed her when she gave a speech.

This is an example of the unseen things that trigger us all at work and at home.

As a leader it can be tricky to figure out what’s triggering you, let alone what’s triggering your staff or how to help them.

Coming back from being triggered

“I was sitting in a meeting and suddenly felt disconnected. like I could see people were speaking but not really hear them. What’s that about and what can I do?

This was a great question we were asked this week and explored with a leader.

What we uncovered occurs so often for leaders (regardless of the size of your team - massive or the team of one - self leading).

How hard is it to show up at work as your whole-self? Impossible if you don't know who you are!

My heart pounding so hard in my chest I felt like I could have had a heart attack any minute, the sensation of the universe inside my chest beating a drum saying speak up, share your journey, be your authentic self. My small Human Resources “Jo” self so worried what others would think, judging me for sharing my personal grief at work of losing a child.

The battle of my nervous system and my true Inner guidance system in full swing as it came closer and closer to my turn to speak in the circle. My armoured up “boxed in”little self was saying “only share professional Human Resources advise and resources, you are work”!

Keeping that magic moment feeling in your day to day life

You know those moments you create that are magic. Sharing something intimate with a friend when you catch up for a cuppa; going for a swim; a walk along the river or locking the door and soaking in a bath. Blissful moment away from your everyday life.

But then you get a phone call, or somethings happened with the family or work. How do you hold that blissful feeling when your stomach sinks and you want to run away?

Keep reading

How our 16 year old son's visit from his coma showed me I am not who I thought I was

Adam (Ads) our 16 year old son was lying in an ICU in a coma. My gorgeous boy's body deteriorating with sepsis.

What happened that night completely transformed who I thought I was as ‘Jo’ living in a physical body.

Adam visited me from his body lying being breathed by a machine, with a love and gentle cradling that cannot be described by words.

Our boy prepared me for what he had been already shown. He was about to leave the physical casing of his body

Your Inner Guidance System allows you to decide how life's going to be

What if you could become so aware of your own course, no-one could blow you off it. You’d make adjustments depending on what’s around. Sometimes you mightn’t know exactly where you’re heading. But your inner guidance system would guide you in a direction that was so right for you.

If you’d asked me if this was possible in my 20’s I would have thought you were nuts. Now I know differently.